Like - Dislike
When you like someone for who they are as a person, and can have a quality time with them, it is easy to overlook their shortcomings and not be bothered by small habitual differences. Infact it is even possible that you appreciate even the most mediocre things that they do. I strongly believe that when you like someone, even the not so good looking people start to appear handsome and beautiful….
In the contrary, when you do not like a person, even the smallest habitual difference can be majorly annoying…. the way they make sound while sipping water, the way they laugh, their suggestions, everything can be irritating. You cannot see goodness even in the nicest things they do, even if it is for you. If they are good looking, you would attribute all their short comings to ‘arrogance associated with looks’.
When you want to please some one, we should probably focus on making that person like you by striking identity with them, having a good conversation, and having fun together in whatever you do, rather than focusing on a certain situation, activity or time.
I have had this conversation with so many people in different ways now…so I thought it deserves a blog entry….
You would want to read this if you are part of a team, if you sit in your team meetings feeling you dont belong there, or when you listen to your team mates argue about an issue over and over forever you think “what a bunch of loosers”, orrr If you are part of a team, where you admire and adore every individual for their potential, yet you cant see you team go anywhere with important decisions…the common issues which might seem endless and solution less are dealt with excellently in this book, and the author has done a great job of creating characters that would be close to real life people you might meet. as i was reading the book, i kept telling myself…’oh this person is sooo like the one i know…’ and sometimes i could even identify myself in situations described and i would have reacted very similar…
nd i happened to do some hiking in the TN, smokies. The drive itself was sooo beautiful…it is the perfect break I wanted off from work.. These mountains are so aptly named ’smoky’…they literally appear as if a fire was put off and all that remains is smoke…but ofcourse the smoke is white in color and hence looks beautiful…well ofcourse it is not smoke…its the clouds that are so close to the mountain surface, they appear to emanate from within. these clouds are infact sometimes close to the bottom of the valley inbetween the mountains.
dissappointing the most was that it was infested with humans….defeating the purpose of taking a hike in the mountains…but ofcourse i was one of them at that time…we decided to continue to hike beyond this point and that was the most beautiful hike. It was walking in a beautiful and safe rain forest…lush green and the unforgettable aroma…seems like i can close my eyes and recollect the aroma anytime….very refreshing….